July 2009
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study: Divorce takes health toll that remarriage... →
via CNN - Divorce causes more than bitterness and broken hearts. The trauma of a split can leave long-lasting effects on mental and physical health that remarriage might not repair, according to research released this week. ”People who lose a marriage take such damage to their health,” said Linda Waite, a sociologist at the University of Chicago in Illinois. Waite and co-author Mary...
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How do you balance baby and marriage? →
When partners become parents, their immediate focus is no longer on themselves or each other, but on the urgent needs of their baby. This puts their own relationship on the back burner, acknowledged Doug Larzelier, a registered counselor at Spokane’s Heart to Heart Counseling and Coaching. During pregnancy and childbirth, many women also experience changes in their brains that promote bonding and...
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study: Young Adult Attitudes About Relationships... →
The July 2009 edition of focused on young adults’ attitudes and opinions about relationships, including cohabitation and marriage. The findings highlight some important themes about how young adults view relationships, what they value in relationships, and their expectations for their current and future romantic relationships. (full PDF report) // related: Young Americans plan to be married.
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WatchHow do you deal with difficult people?
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Saving Black Marriages →
There are many influences that have shaped, affected or strained black marriages, according to marriage and family experts. Among them: African tribal traditions, the horrors of slavery, racial integration in the U.S. that paved the way to more freedoms and the migrations of thousands of African-Americans that fractured or reshaped communities. Trace the historic migrations of black...
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Are memories of past hurt are necessary for health... →
Memories of past hurt are necessary for health and wellbeing. They keep us safe in the present and future, by activating an automatic defense system…the function of emotionally painful memories is the same as the physically painful. Recalling betrayal is likely to make you more cautious about whom you trust; remembering the pain of past failures will usually motivate more learning, effort,...
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Marriage thrives despite our evolving sex lives →
More women are waiting longer than ever to get hitched. But as our sex lives have changed, calls to “save marriage” have grown. The newest figures prove that we don’t hate marriage in this country, we just have a problem staying married because we still don’t understand the complex institution and become disenchanted when our expectations crumble. In the segments of our society in which marriage...
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study: Shared Vices Good for Marriage →
Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it’s a lot more than just being in love. The study, entitled “What’s Love Got to Do With It”, tracked nearly 2,500 couples — married or living together — from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or...
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Marital Mentalities: The Changes are Historic, and... →
There are at least two ongoing rhetorical maelstroms. The first, and more narrow one, is over marriage itself. On one side is the “everyone into the marital pool” movement; lined up against it are the lifeguards cautioning, “not so fast.” The second has yet to make quite as much noise as the first, but it is more profound. It asks why marriage is so central to our...
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Divorce Delay - Mandatory 'Cooling Off' Period →
UK: It would give estranged husbands and wives a chance to consider saving their relationship. The Tory think tank’s report, called Every Family Matters, also backed a tax break to promote marriage. It called for more counselling for warring couples and marriage classes for those getting wed. And the report insisted that Labour’s new rights for cohabiting couples should be reversed. It...
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study: Nature of South Africa's traditional family... →
An estimated 40% of South Africa’s 18 million children are being raised by single mothers as the nature of the country’s traditional family changes. Seven million children are growing up with single mothers, outnumbering the 6.8 million — about 23% of the country’s children — who live with both parents. Indian children are most fortunate, with 82% living with both parents. White children follow...
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WatchMoney and Marriage.
Do you hide money from your spouse?
related: 10 ways to tell if your spouse is hiding money
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study: Dating and Cohabitation - It just sort of... →
Cohabitation has increased so rapidly that the data about it haven’t kept pace with the growing numbers, researchers say. The latest U.S. Census for 2008 reported 13.6 million unmarried, heterosexual couples living together. Researchers say 50% to 60% of couples who marry today lived together first; some note that 70% of young adults will cohabit. Most couples who live together either marry...
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Does marriage and social media go together? →
Mommies are flocking to social networks, according to new research from BabyCenter LLC, which runs several parenting Web and community sites. The number of moms using social media regularly has grown from 11% in 2006 to 63% today, an increase of 462% in three years, the company said. // Related: Facebook Users Are Getting Older - Much Older.
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Do marriage education classes make a difference? →
There’s some evidence that marriage education helps couples stick together. A study published in 2006 in the Journal of Family Psychology linked taking marriage education classes before tying the knot to higher satisfaction and commitment in marriage, less conflict and reduced chances of divorce, regardless of couples’ race, income or education. Researchers, led by the University of Denver’s Scott...
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Working on Your Marriage — at Work →
People often complain they are married to their jobs. In recent years, some companies have been helping employees work on their marriages, on the job. Some companies, such as the fast-food chain Chick-fil-A, are motivated by religious values to encourage strong marriages and families. Other businesses, amid evidence that divorce and relationship stress can make workers less efficient, have begun...
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Is marriage in the midst of the social equivalent... →
The seemingly reasonable notion that marriage is crashing because we’re likely to live till 80 also doesn’t hold up. The typical divorce is not of a midlife couple bored with finishing each other’s sentences; it’s of a twosome who have just written the last thank-you note for wedding gifts. More than one-fifth of marriages break up within five years. The median age at first...
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Are you well endowed? →
via Scott Stanley: The Endowment Effect is psychological effect discovered by research psychologists and behavioral economists. It reflects the now well-proven fact that people place a greater value on a thing they already own than they would if they did not own that thing and had to buy it…There are some tricky implications for romantic relationships here. For example, for the average...
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Let's end disposable marriage →
via Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears: As a judge I have long held a front row seat to the wreckage left behind by our culture of disposable marriage and casual divorce that my brother so despised. No-fault divorce was a response to a very real problem. The social and legal landscape that preceded it largely prevented casual divorce, but it often trapped people in abusive marriages. It also turned...
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What's driving more single African-American women... →
Marriage and motherhood — it’s the dream that begins in childhood for many women. Yet more African-American women are deciding to adopt instead of waiting for a husband, says Mardie Caldwell, founder of Lifetime Adoption, an adoption referral and support group in Penn Valley, California.”We’re seeing more and more single African-American women who are not finding...
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NCHS Data Brief: Who Marries and When?
Below are the key findings from a report published this week by the National Center for Health Statistics (download complete report: Data Brief No. 19).
Key Findings:
Over 70% of men and women aged 25–44 have ever been married: 71% of men and 79% of women.
Non-Hispanic black men and women aged 25–44 have lower percentages who have ever been married than non- Hispanic white and Hispanic...