September 2009
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Air Force Marriages: Forget everything you thought... →
Forget everything you thought you knew about marriage and divorce in the Air Force. Most of it isn’t true. An analysis by Air Force Times of the service’s marriage and divorce statistics turned up surprising conclusions. Many defy easy explanation. Female airmen are two to three times more likely than male airmen to be divorced and are less likely to be married. Of the active-duty force, 66.6...
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Australia: What's the real story behind increase... →
It seemed like good news on marriage last year. The Australian Bureau of Statistics reported a record number of registered marriages since 1989 and a 10 per cent drop in divorce numbers since 1999. The reality is that marital relationships have never been more unstable in Australia. The number of marriages has increased because the population has grown. However, the proportion of married people...
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“If you’re certain you’re right, you’re probably wrong....”
– Steven Stosny, Ph.D. [link: full post]
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What Kind of Partner Do You Want to Be? →
via Steven Stosney: Negative reactivity between partners is what keeps couples making the same mistakes over and over. That’s when one cannot have a negative emotion without the other responding defensively. The principle holds even if the negative emotion is not expressed - one sulks, the other reacts. Reversing negative reactivity starts with questions that are more philosophical than...
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The Marriage You've Always Wanted
I’m finally getting around to reading Gary Chapman’s newest book, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted. My wife and I got free copies at a dinner event where he was the invited guest. Below is an excerpt that we were talking about last night. It led to such a great conversation that I thought to share it with you.
I would be unfair if I did not express clearly my deep thoughts that...