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via Steven Stosney: Negative reactivity between partners is what keeps couples making the same mistakes over and over. That’s when one cannot have a negative emotion without the other responding defensively. The principle holds even if the negative emotion is not expressed - one sulks, the other reacts. Reversing negative reactivity starts with questions that are more philosophical than psychological. You have to decide what kind of a person and partner you want to be. Do you want to be driven by your ego? Or motivated by your deepest values? Is your resentment or anger helping you be the person, parent, and intimate partner you most want to be? Read more…